Dr. Jacqueline Gerhart: Buying gifts for elderly parents can be difficult

UW Health Family Medicine physician Dr. Jacqueline GerhartMadison, Wisconsin - UW Health Family Medicine physician Jacqueline Gerhart writes a column that appears Tuesdays on madison.com and in the Wisconsin State Journal. Columns are re-published here with permission.


Dear Dr. Gerhart,


Every year my family travels to northern Wisconsin to my parents’ house. My parents are in their 70s, and I never know what to give them for a gift. Is there something I can give that is healthy or helpful for them?


Dear Reader,


Choosing gifts for a parent can be very difficult. Instead of trying to fill up their already-full closet, try finding a gift that might promote their health and happiness.


As people get older, they may value something that is practical rather than something material. Many people take pride in keeping a neat home, especially for company, but with arthritis or instability, cleaning is often difficult. Consider hiring help. Someone could help with shoveling snow, salting the driveway, cooking meals, or doing the laundry. Installing a home security system can also go a long way for those who live alone to feel more safe.


One of the largest risks in the winter is falls — either outside on ice and snow, or inside on rugs, blankets, or in soft slippers. Many people shuffle along in their slippers, or run around the house with relatives, inevitably tripping over things. Instead of slippers, consider well-made shoes with sturdy soles. Also try coverings for the bottom of shoes or boots that provide traction on the snow. One brand is called Yaktrax. For indoors, try getting carpet tape or non-slip rug pads so that the rugs don’t slip and cause a risk for falls. Don’t get me wrong … these gifts likely won’t evoke a glimmer of joy in her eyes. In fact, she may give you the same response that your wife gives you when unwrapping a pair of rubber gloves and a toilet brush. However, these are things your parents likely won’t get themselves, and that could easily keep them out of the hospital this holiday.


Also consider something to keep their mind healthy. My grandfather has a subscription to National Geographic. Consider giving a book of riddles or crosswords. How about a 500-piece puzzle to do with the whole family? Or better yet, teach yourself and your older kids to play a game your parents may know, such as dominos, bridge, or sheepshead. Then surprise your parents/grandparents by playing with them. (Your kids might be really impressed when grandpa beats everyone at euchre).


Try inspiring their memory by framing an old family photo, making a traditional family recipe, or planning an outing that you did as a child. For those who are tech savvy, consider making a video collage of photos of your family. Or, create a new tradition: buy tickets to a play, musical, or show. The Overture Center has special seats that are held aside for people with disabilities — both those in wheelchairs, and those with vision or hearing problems. Going frugal? One of my patients has a tradition where each family member writes a poem

or essay that they read aloud on Christmas to update other family members on main events in their lives.


Have a safe and healthy Christmas!


Have more ideas for parent gifts that are happy or healthy? Comment on this article on www.madison.com or send me an email at features@madison.com.

This column provides general health information and is not specific advice intended for any particular individual(s). It is not a professional medical opinion or a diagnosis. Always consult your personal health care provider about your concerns. No ongoing relationship of any sort (including but not limited to any form of professional relationship) is implied or offered by Dr. Gerhart to people submitting questions.


Date Published: 12/20/2011

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